What to do when your pet dies
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Your pet was part of your family. They were there every day, and the house can feel very quiet without them. Grieving a pet is real grief, and you deserve care and kindness while you go through it.
Is it normal to grieve this much for a pet?
Yes. The bond with a pet is strong and woven into everyday life, from the morning walk to the sound of them at the door. It's okay to tell people you're struggling. Those who understand will want to support you.
What should I do in the first few hours?
There's no need to rush. If you'd like to, take time to sit with them and say goodbye. If your pet died at home, call your vet when you're ready. They can explain your options and may be able to help with collection. If your pet died at the clinic, the team will gently talk you through what happens next.
It can also help to think about whether children or other family members would like a moment to say goodbye too.
Should I choose cremation or burial?
There's no wrong choice. It depends on what feels right for you and your family.
Cremation is the most common choice. With a private cremation, your pet's ashes are returned to you, often in an urn or keepsake box. With a communal cremation, the ashes aren't returned, and it usually costs less. Burial can be at home or at a pet cemetery, but check your local council's rules before burying a pet at home.
Gaia can help you arrange a cremation or arrange a burial for your pet, including gentle collection from your home or vet.
Who do I need to tell?
When you feel ready, these are the people and places to let know:
- Your vet
- Your pet insurance company
- The microchip registry
- Your local council, if your pet was registered
- Groomers, walkers or pet sitters
What can help with saying goodbye?
Small rituals can bring a lot of comfort. You might light a candle for them, write them a letter, or keep their collar, tag or a favourite toy somewhere special. Some families plant a tree or flowers in their pet's favourite spot, or walk their favourite route and share memories along the way.
How do I help children when a pet dies?
A pet's death is often a child's first experience of loss. Be honest and use the word "died", rather than phrases like "put to sleep" that can confuse or frighten young children. Let them ask questions, and let them see that you're sad too. Drawing a picture or writing a goodbye note can help them express how they feel.
How can I remember my pet?
A framed photo, a memory box or a keepsake made from their paw print can keep them close. You can also create an online memorial and fill it with photos and stories, so everyone who loved them has a place to remember.
Common questions
There's no set time. The pain often softens over weeks and months, and the love for them stays.
Pets are part of your everyday life, so their absence is felt every day. That's a sign of how much they meant to you.
It's never too late. Many families create one on an anniversary or a birthday, when the time feels right.
Go to Manage a memorial and sign in with the email you used when publishing. From there you can edit the memorial, add photos and update tributes whenever you need to.
Only when it feels right. Some people find comfort in a new pet soon. Others need more time. Both are okay.
Written by Marlene Israel. Last reviewed .
This article is general information for people in Australia. Rules and processes differ between states. If you're unsure, ask your doctor, funeral director or a solicitor.
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